After questioning, does your partner react with concern or guilt? Simply put, when you pull away, they'll re-engage you. Try out push pull theory for yourself in the field, its going to take some practice.
Being too much of an asshole will not get you where you want to be with women, and of course being too nice will not get you where you want to be with women. They don't need more time to figure out their emotions. Each push creates an emotional space for each pull. Women played hard to get in an attempt to appear more in demand.